If you want to spend $3000 on your kids for Christmas....be my guest. I wasn't saying it was wrong....but the woman on the Dr. Phil show had to refinance their home to pay off the credit card bills, and is still using them, putting themselves deeper into debt. Not only that, the husband's point of view was that he wanted the kids to go to good schools, and to be able to save for their college education. And at the end of the clip, she gave the little 2 year old the credit card and said, "What do we do with this?" and the little girl swiped it and said, "CHARGE IT!"
If you have the cash to pay for it....fine. But these people obviously didn't have the cash. I wasn't saying that it is wrong to spoil your children every once in a while....as long as you are able to provide your family with the necessities of every day living.
(I guess I should have explained the entire show! LOL)
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No need to explain it to me. I love Dr.Phil's show. Never missed it but do now sometimes because of my husband's illness. I spoiled my children when they were younger but only if I had money to purchase what I wanted them to have. Oh- Congrats on being picked for Editors Choice of top five. Great journal. Stop by and visit me sometime. **Barb**
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I totally agree with Dr. Phil about that kid. The woman on the show is nutty to spoil a child like that, although in this day and age, it happens all the time. I can't imagine receiving gifts that extreme as a kid. I never even had my own tv, let alone some of the stuff kids get now. That's one reason I'm a little glad I don't have children. How in the world do you raise them to NOT be so materialistic? My ten year old neice knows nothing about the value of a dollar and expects everything to be handed to her. I for one, might have helped her with that attitude by handing gifts to her as a child and spoiling her rotten. But, now that she is older, if she wants something expensive and doesn't work for it, I won't get it for her. But, I can't control her parents and grandmother...
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I can't believe that someone would spend that much money on Christmas for anyone! And I thought MY kids were spoiled! Our family was just talking about that the other day--when my hubby's sisters were growing up, getting a soft drink was something special, not to mention candy. Tea was drank on Sundays only--the rest of the week it was milk and water. You got fruit in your stocking at Christmastime. Nowadays kids expect so much, and they don't really appreciate anything they have. I've tried to instill in my kids the REAL valuable things in life, but most of the time they still don't get it! It's the generation they're living in. Just watch 30 minutes of TV with your kids and see how many ads there are for toys, candy, fast food, etc. No wonder they have get all of these distorted ideas in their heads! Adults can be the same way--even worse. That's sad. Love, Kim
hey girl i feel for u my mom works her ass off everday. im 14 yrs old tell your daughter i said hi ok
That 3 presents thing is a wonderful idea. I don't think I usually buy the girls more than that anyway, so next year, I'll notice more. I don't think it's bad if you have the money to spend $3000 on something big, but 3 hours of opening presents? Ugh, I'd even get bored of that! ~Melissa
I just stopped by, and wanted to say that I agree with you. The three gifts is a great way to handle xmas and the gimmie this and gimmie that. Great job mom!!
~Dana
I soo agree with you! Just because you have plastic you still need paper to pay for it! I can't believe they are teaching there 2 year old about credit cards like that. They are a good thing to have in case of an emergency but it seems like these children are just going to grow up thinking that this is the easy way to pay for it and not be taught that they have to have the cash when the bill comes around. I would want my kids to learn from my mistakes and be debt free. I can't beleive they would refinance there home for Christmas, surgery or something major like that I can see.
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I am just weak reading your journal..it's fab as the british say. i lived on and off in florida for a lot of my life. where abouts are you? please don't say near a taco bell or i might actually cry.. if the queen would import sunshine and taco bell i think my life would be perfect. sorry i am moaning now lol. i will definitly be back to read you but now it's time for a fag and a cuppa. thats a coffee and a cigarette in american lol.
Just think how much this mother will have to spend when her little girl is a teenager!. I think wonderful things to give children which only cost you the time and effort to give them. Love, repect, manners, sense of responsibility etc.
Wow that is over doing it i would never do that to my family what about food for the family and clothes and besides my husband would be pissed off.My kids would be very happy but when you spoil a child u need 2 have a limit.
I think the three gift thing is pretty smart of you JB. Sometimes I wonder, where do you come up with all of these good ideas? You must have had pretty smart parents!!! Fudgie
Your right! I am a single mother of 2 boys ages 10 and 15.In 99 I suffered aterribly lost in my family it was during this time that I decided to reavaluate my life,make some changes.Xmas was one of them.I am36yrs old.When I was young my parents went all out for us on Xmas,they were the Jones(smile).In the past Ive had live trees and the poinsettas the wole shabang!As soon as the newyear comes I was always in debt,I decided to celebrate that holiday with volunteering my time and my childrens time with local community centers assisting families without hope.My children recieve gifts throughout the month of December.Things that they need for school,winter clothes and very few toys.xmas is so over rated its sad how people are seemingly happy in December and they wont even say hello after 12-31.so sad!
I totally 100% agree with you . That woman IS nuts.......lol. I love your idea of the three gifts ( very classy)
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OMG,a million things are running through my head after reading these last two entries.First of all,I totally agree with you about the whole $3 thousand thing. Second,it's parents like them that make it extremely difficult for parents like us to deal with our own kids.You know,the whole "well, so-and-so has it and I don't".Third,I have just had to do the whole revamping of the family unit.I think it had to do with the preachers sermon on godly mothers and our job to raise our children up to be good members of society.I'm gonna stop now cuz I could keep going.KIM
AS A SINGLE MOTHER OF 7 CHILDREN AGES 3 MONTHS ON UP TO 17 YEARS ID SAY DONT SPOIL THE CHILD TEACH HIM TO SPEND WISELY HE MAY BE A DOCTOR OR EVEN A WISH I HAD WORKED THIS WEEK CONSTRUCTION PERSON OR IT MIGHT BE YOUR LITTLE GIRL WHO IS WITH A WISH I WAS WORKIN THIS WEEK KINDA GUY AND SHE NEEDS TO KNOW THAT WELFARE ONLY PAYS FOR WHAT YOU HAVE TO HAVVE NOT WHAT YOU WANT SO JUST IN CASE THEY ARE ONE OF THOSE TYPES WHEN THEY GROW UP THEY SHOULD ALL BE RAISED TO RESPECT WHAT MONEY YOU DO HAVE JUST INCASE YOU DONT HAVE IT LATER KELLIKAYE OF INDIANA LIVIN ON A BUDGET CAUSE I DIDNT LISTEN TO MY PARENTS WHO RAISED ME TO BE SOMEBODY AND LEARN SOPMETHING
Well I think you were right the first time. Anyone who spends $3000 for Christmas gifts for 1 child is outta their freakin mind! I don't care if it's cash or credit. I hate when my kids kid $100 worth of toys and junk, I get sick of cleaning it up. But then again if I had $3000 to spend on 1 kid I would be able to afford a maid to clean it all up.
My older sister is like that one lady. We had a family Christmas thing at another sister's house. My son wanted a Gameboy sooo bad, but we could not afford it. His cousin got one, and on the way home he broke my heart by asking why Santa loved his cousin more than he loved him. I cried all the way home, and it was a 6 hour drive! We can afford more extravegant gifts now, but we still set a limit because we don't want the kids to lose the true meaning of Christmas.
I very much agree with you. Even if I did have millions of dollars to spend I wouldn't spend it all on my children. I've seen it first hand. Spending large amounts of money can turn kids into little spending machines and they might grow up to be irresponsible with their finances in their adulthood.
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